Celebrating the depth and diversity of BC publishing
Cross & Crows Books welcomes author Mx. Nillin Lore and Matsui de Roo for a virtual reading and discussion of Nillin’s first book, How Do I Sexy?
ABOUT HOW DO I SEXY?
What even is “sexy,” and how do you do it? A tough question for trans and nonbinary queers struggling to find their sexual selves in a landscape rife with misogynistic, transphobic and homophobic ideals and expectations.
In How Do I Sexy? Mx. Nillin Lore provides affirming and helpful direction based on over a decade of their own personal and professional experience as an educator, advocate, support worker and award-winning sex blogger. You’re invited to do some deep introspection, find a look that feels right and gain insight on sexiness from fellow trans and nonbinary queers. You’ll also find valuable tips on navigating dating sites, finding community, managing rejection with grace and engaging in sexual relationships. Principled and compassionate, Mx. Nillin Lore will help you figure out who you want to be, who you want to be with and how to make it happen—both in the streets and between the sheets.
ABOUT MX. NILLIN LORE
Mx.Nillin Lore is an AuDHD, genderflux, queer, and polyamorous author, blogger and educator in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, Canada. Winner of the Top 100 Sex Blogs of 2021, they have had queer erotica stories published in several anthologies with Cleis Press and co-wrote Chapter 16 in the 2023 Lammy Award Finalist resource book Trans Bodies, Trans Selves from Oxford University Press.
ABOUT MATSUI DE ROO
Matsui is a queer, trans, nonbinary neurodivergent person of colour with ancestors from Japan, Belgium, France and Ireland, grateful to live and work on the unceded, ancestral and traditional territories of the xʷməθkʷəy̓ əm (Musqueam), səl̓ilw̓ ətaʔɬ (Tsleil-Waututh) and Sḵwx̱wú7mesh Úxwumixw (Squamish) Nations. Matsui is a registered clinical counsellor in private practice in Vancouver BC, with an area of focus in queer- and trans-centered sexuality and sexual health. Matsui uses an intersectional lens to work with queer and trans people of colour healing from trauma, burnout, and grief. Their work is grounded in anti-oppression, anti-capitalist and abolitionist values. They believe in mutual and collective care, art, activism, play, and plenty of rest to support individual and collective healing and liberation.